Should Christians holler "We want prenup"*?

*Quoted from Kanye West's popular song, "Golddigger."  If you have not heard the song, please don't go listen to it because it does not have a great message for Christians or women.


Hey DWDI Fam!

     First, okay, so I was supposed to post last night.  I unfortunately fell asleep with my face in front of my laptop for some time while studying, then just gave up and got in the bed.  I planned to finish this post this morning but had other things get in the way including a minor breakdown over realizing I had studied some inaccurate information.  I am so sorry!  I do not miss school and I look forward to one day when I will never take a test again!

   Now, I know there's been a lot of coverage of celebrity divorces over the years and whether those couples signed a prenuptial agreement (prenup).  These celebrity divorces include:

• NBA star Kobe Bryant and his wife, Vanessa (well, neither he nor his wife have signed the paperwork to finalize the divorce and may reconcile based on pictures of late.  If they don't she gets half his money and 3 houses);
• Singer Katy Perry and actor Russell Brand (do not think there will be a reconciliation here.  She included a smiley face on their divorce papers.  Plus, Russell is not a believer, which caused strife in their marriage.  In my opinion, this is probably the best outcome in that case because they were unequally yolked)); 
• Model Heidi Klum and Seal (maybe a reconciliation? Well, they appear to have taken  off their wedding bands and taken Kanye's advice);
• Michael Jordan and his ex-wife, Juanita (their divorce was a few years ago but Juanita got a HUGE divorce settlement and Mike's STILL rich and engaged to a model);
• Rapper Nas and ex wife, singer Kelis (that was a couple of years ago but Kelis also a HUGE divorce settlement);
• Pro golfer Tiger Woods and his ex-wife, Elin (yeah, I will not talk about why they ended up splitting but Elin got a HUGE divorce settlement); and
• Actor Kelsey Grammer and his ex-wife, Camille, who is a reality star from The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (look at previous rule regarding details of split.  They did not have a prenup and Kelsey is still working so I am sure Camille got a large divorce settlement as well).

In all of these cases, there is at least one rich celebrity who could stand to lose a lot financially (this also depends on where the couple married and for how long they were married).  Many people with a lot of assets chose to sign a prenup to avoid losing their fancy stuff in case the marriage goes south.  So, should we as Christians follow this "sound financial advice"? Let's look at some scripture.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. ²¹ So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. ²² Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. ²³ The man said,   “This is now bone of my bones    and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’    for she was taken out of man.” ²⁴ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.  -Genesis 2:20-24.  Verse 24 is also repeated in Ephesians 5:31 when Paul compares husbands and wives to Christ and the church.

So, based on this scripture plus a few others, my answer to this question is no and here's why:

• We women folk came from men and we are destined to be reunited with men in marriage.  After men and women exchange vows before God, they unite as "one flesh" or one unit in the following ways: under the law for purposes and benefits from things like property, insurance, etc.; physically when they consumate the marriage; as a family when they move in together and possibly have children; and in God's eyes (which also includes the consumation and family part).  Why would it be any different for money?   
• Getting a prenup already signals that the spouses are planning a Plan B/Escape Route despite the fact that marriage vows are "for as long as you both shall live."  Check out Matthew 19:1-9 and see that people could not divorce for reasons other than sexual immorality because marriage is a covenant before God; despite what was allowed since the time of Moses, men were not supposed to divorce their wives because the wives "displeased them."
• Yes, money is important in this world but we are supposed to be "in the world but not of the world," so why are we so concerned about losing our material goods anyway? We can't take it with us and we should not focus on doing so (Matthew 6:19-24).  It does not give us joy and peace like God.  It has not washed away our sins like Jesus.  Why is it so important to spend money on something to protect money when it is not even our money? It is God's money; He allows us to be stewards of it.  And, God does provide for those who trust and believe in Him.  If He provides for the birds (Matthew 6:26), why won't He provide for us?

     So, this is why I am anti-prenup.  It just seems to be so selfish, anti-marriage, and anti-Christian values, especially when it comes to not trusting in God to give you the right mate and to protect you financially through good times and in bad.  Anyone care to comment?

     Well, I'd better head to bed and try to memorize lots of information like crazy over the weekend.  Good night and have a great weekend, DWDI Fam!

Love,

CCC